Have you ever stopped to think how great of a source love is? It can be a source of energy, a source of comfort, a source of strength, and many other powerful and positive things. It can also be a source of immense pain. I’m sure by now we have all experienced at least one heartbreak.  

While love can be one of the best things, it can also be one of the very worst. BUT, there will always be a rainbow after a storm, and love after a heartbreak. Just be sure to work on healing yourself so that you are ready to receive that love when it finds you again. Below are a few things to keep in mind on your healing journey. 

1) Face the hurt. A lot of us like to skip to the part where we just get over what happened and put it behind us as quickly as possible. Although that may help with getting through some of the rougher days, it is only prolonging the inevitable. You will have to face your feelings sooner or later. It is better to deal with those feelings on your own terms before your feelings sneak up on you at an inconvenient time. What do I mean? If you keep avoiding your feelings, they will sneak up and embarrass you; most likely in a public way. When you burst into tears at work because someone tells you the printer isn’t working, you’ll know what I mean lol. It is ok to be hurt. There is no timeframe on how long it takes to get over someone or something. But face your feelings with a purpose in mind. Let yourself feel the hurt, so you can acknowledge those feelings and move forward. Embracing your feelings and wallowing in sadness are two very different things.  

2) What part did you play in breaking your own heart? No one intentionally breaks their own heart. While I’m sure there are several things the other party did that resulted in hurting you…it takes two to tango. So, as you go through your healing process, really analyze things and think of what part you could have played in the downfall of that relationship. It could be that you turned a blind eye to red flags, maybe you allowed the relationship to turn you into someone you’re not, or maybe you stayed too long? The whole point of combing through the past to see what you should have done differently, is to prepare you for your next relationship. That way you learn from your past and avoid making the same mistakes in the future. The goal is to gain understanding, not to find blame.  

3) Take time to re-discover yourself. None of us come out the same after a heartbreak, but don’t become a bitter version of yourself. Take the time to heal and learn what this new version of yourself needs and likes! Be selfish and focus on what makes you happy. You’ll find that if you take the time to really do the hard work (because it won’t be easy) to heal, you will come out so much better in the end. By setting yourself up for success, it will be impossible for you to fail moving forward.  

It can be easy to feel hopeless after a heartbreak, but I think you’ll find that love will find you when you are ready; so don’t rush the process. Opening up to someone and caring for them while also giving them the chance to care for you in return, is possibly one of the bravest things you can do. Love is scary, and it can be painful, but it can be just as joyful and healing, so don’t rush. Heal yourself and let love find you when the time is right.  

“What’s meant for will always be yours.” 

-S|20

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